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Humor: It Must Be Heaven by Nerissa Velten
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My son Logan will be ten months old tomorrow. He has been in the world longer than he was in my belly. Logan walks now, and tries to run, and nurses for nearly all of his meals. It is simply incredible to me that he was once a ball of blank-slate cells buried deep in my belly. Jake is just as astonishing, as he reads numbers and letters and runs my computer like it was an extension of himself. It fills me with such a sense of accomplishmnt, even now, when I am as sick as a dog with a cold. My boys are healthy and energetic enough to play and rampage through the house, while I sit at the computer sniffling, groaning, coughing and sipping lemon tea. I feel my breastmilk has kept them over the strong currents of the illness in this house, and I am strangely proud of this. As if I had played some part in creating breastmilk with my intellect and research, instead of my body, genes, and environment determining the makeup of my milk. I am proud, nonetheless.
It Must Be Heaven
by Nerissa Velten
When Camille was little we started introducing hand signs for her to communicate. She had a sign for nursing and would use it when she wanted to nurse every so often. Then when she started becoming more verbal and I introduced the word "Nene" for nursing. I think I read it in "Mothering your Nursing Toddler" and I liked it. I wanted something that when she said it, not everyone would know what she was asking for and something that she could pronounce easily. She started using it around 10 months. And anything to do with nursing: the act of breastfeeding, the breast, bras, etc. is Nene to her. At about 14 months on a trip to the mall we went by a Victoria's Secret store. My husband wanted to know what her reaction would be or if she would have one at all. She was sitting in the stroller and we were heading straight for the store. As we got closer her eyes started lighting up. When we got into the store, Camille must have been in heaven: she started stretching out her arms as to touch all the lingerie and bras hanging everywhere and started chanting "Nene, Nene" with the biggest grin on her face. There were Nene holders all around her! She was surrounded by Nenes all around! She loved it. It was the funniest thing to see and we still laugh about it today.
SAHM to her daughter Camille, who at 21 months is still nursing strong
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In So Many Words...
Last month I asked the readers of The Nursing Mom's News about how your children talk about breastfeeding. The response has been fabulous, delightful, and frequently hilarious. Enjoy!
I also have two nursers, Xan and Paulos. I used the word "milkies" with Xan to refer to nursing, and he repeated it as "nukkies." That's still our preferred term, although sometimes we revert to milkies.
It's really sweet when Xan responds to Paulos's fussing by worrying "Mama, Paulos needs some nukkies. Can you give him some nukkies, please?"
Beth, mom to Xan 9/28/98 and Paulos 4/24/01
My son Ian is 27 months and still nursing, which we both enjoy immensely, including nursing himself to sleep.
I've never had a problem with him asking to nurse in public, due to the way I referred to it early on (quite by accident, I guess, as I didn't really give it all that much thought at the time). My trick has been to call nursing "having a snack". Up until just recently, he simply asked to nurse by sort of "clicking his tongue", as adults do when they insinuate that something is really tasty. (I have no idea where he came up with this on his own, except that breastmilk can be pretty tasty to a toddler!) He either does this as he's pointing to me, or by tugging/lifting up my shirt. At this, I'll ask him "Do you want a snack?" and he'll say yes. Recently, he has begun to actually say "snack" at times as well. Unless he's lifting up my shirt pretty high, no-one has a clue that "having a snack" means he wants to nurse!
I've found this to be a very easy and discrete way for my toddler and I (and my husband, who's very supportive of still nursing our 2 yr. old) to communicate about nursing without me worrying about it in public!
In the last month or two, his response to my question of "Do you want a snack?" is to hold up two fingers and say, "Yes- two!" Apparently, "having a snack" doesn't exactly mean nursing to him, it means "having a breast!" As in Snack = Breast. So, when I ask if he wants a snack, his reply means "Yes mom, but not only one... I want both of them!" One to nurse from while he twiddles the other! :-)
Laura Wunderlin-VanArsdall is currently a Special Ed. teacher, and her
husband stays at home (he's currently going to Graduate School) with their
2 yr. old
We use the word nurse, too. My story is exactly the same as yours: "Do you want to nurse?" Of course, sometimes if we didn't nurse immediately, my daughter would start slapping my breasts and yelling nurse. At about 2 years of age, she started to understand, "You're a big girl, now, and you can wait until [specify next nursing time]." So the breast-slapping stopped.
My daughter, who was only weaned at 27 months, called her special feeds "Ba-doos".
SAHM to Hannah (2.5 years) and #2
We go with "Num-nums" because that's the sound she makes when she's really hungry and nursing "num-num-num" in between swallowing.
Kris, Mom to Bean (8-15-01)
Sam, who will be two years old on the 10th, calls it "Mommy, sit!" lol.
Then he will lead me to the chair in front of the computer, or to the
couch to sit and feed him. My daughter Jennifer used to call it "Mommy,
feed me!" That was a little embarrassing at times lol.
Brandon, our youngest, used to call it Doodoos. "Mommy, want doodoos?" which over here is another 'word' for sleep, so people also thought he was asking me to go to sleep :) No embarrassment at all that way.
I think he started calling it that as I used to invite him to come and
feed before taking a nap, and say: "Brandon, come doodoos." So whatever
you'd like your child to call nursing, you can encourage that by what you
call it. Obviously LOL
Mom to Brandon 95-12-11; Mandy 94-03-17; and Jason 92-04-28
My son (3 years old) calls it "milky sides". "Milky" because obviously it has milk, and "sides" because I would often ask if he wanted the other "side". It's sort of a code word, because most people don't know what he means until I explain it. :-)
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Trust Your Heart
by Amy Corkill
My son Tanner is nearly 11 months old now. As he lies in my arms nursing and wiggling and laughing I think wistfully of the newborn days of calm non stop snuggling and cuddling. We do of course get glimpses of those days when he is tired and needing cuddling but he is so much on the go now. I can see him growing up and sadly not nursing as much.
It amazes me how this babe has gone from just a helpless newborn to this wiggling little person nearing toddlerhood. Everyone marvels at what a good boy he is. They constantly comment how happy, cheerful, mellow, calm, and easily entertained he is. He is indeed all these things. I feel that being an exclusively mothers milk fed baby for nearly 9 months greatly created this happy little fellow everyone so admires. He is secure in himself and his family and his place in the world, as he knows it.
I work fulltime and have been a pumpmom since he was 12 weeks old. It wasn't always easy but it was so worth every precious drop. He has never had any nipple confusion or problem switching from breast to bottle thankfully for us. He has also been completely healthy with not one ear problem or cold in 11 months.
I knew when I was pregnant that I would breastfeed my son. My mother breastfed me and was an RN and breastfeeding advocate. It was just the normal thing for me. However not so in my husbands family where bottles sadly reign supreme. I was pressured early on to wean early, supplement formula, etc etc. But I knew in my heart what was right for my son. Then I had to hear about how small Tanner is. At 11 months he weighs just 19lbs. But he is developmentally perfect perhaps even a bit ahead. He is nearly walking and is the picture of health and contentment. I must admit at times I have second-guessed myself. But I tuned into my heart and it once again told me I am doing the best for my child.
Tanner climbs down now once again on the go. While I see him growing up I know in my heart he will never grow away from me. For we made the right start.
Amy Corkill is a fulltime working mom to just her one son Tanner James. They live along with her husband and two Great Danes in Svensen Oregon. She is 35 and Tanner will be 11 months on the 20th.
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